3-1-21 You are not alone.  When you experience an unplanned pregnancy, it is natural to feel vulnerable, insecure, burdened, or fearful, especially if you are young and un-married.  You know that time is not on your side, making you feel pressured, which can cause you to make the irrational and hasty choice of leaving your soul behind by having an abortion to solve your problem.  Many women who have chosen to abort their child have deep regret for doing so.  Some have suffered physical damage and many suffer from psychological damage.¹ These consequences may have been overlooked when they made their decision to abort; and because abortion facts seem so controversial and polarized, and it is a socially acceptable thing to do by worldly standards since it is legalized, it was easy to believe what they wanted to believe for convenience sake.

It is unfortunate that the message of hope for women in this circumstance is not the popular song of the day.  Nevertheless it does exist, and it is getting progressively louder.  Various women’s organizations and pregnancy centers have been active in seeing that all women can have all the support they need to be cared for in every stage of their pregnancy and after birth care, whether she is homeless, or a teenager who would need to live in a maternity home for women, or a college student concerned with continuing her education.  It is amazing to see the lengths people have gone to in order to give hope and encouragement to women who are in desperate need of it.  All lives matter to them, that is why they feel it is so important to ensure that a woman be informed with accurate information and all of her options before she does something she may regret.

See resources for pregnancy and post-abortion help below.

Notes

1. See the article: From pre-abortion coercion to post-abortion heartbreak, injury and deaths, abortion endangers the rights & lives of both  www.theunchoice.com/unsafe.htm

Last Words

When my mom found out she was to have me, I sensed she did not want this to be.

Feelings of much anger and guilt up inside her were built.

Not once did I feel her smile gleam, what does this tragic feeling mean?

Every night she cries her eyes out, I think it was me she was crying about.

Then a terrible thought came into my head as she lay, sleeping in bed.

Could the real truth be that my mom does not love and want me?

Mom, I’m not just a blob of tissue like you read in that magazine issue.

Though I now don’t look exactly like you, I have arms, legs, feelings, and a heartbeat, too.

That morning she cried as she talked on the phone, and she chewed her nails right down to the bone.

She wrote on a piece of paper a time and a date, reassuring the nurse on the other end she wouldn’t be late.

When the time came near for us to go, her feelings for me started to show.

She said, “I made a mistake in having you, but the doctor said it would be quickly through.

You must understand that I love you and care, but raising a child is more than I could bare.”

As she drove to that horrible place, then I realized I’d never see my mom’s face.

And as she signed the papers, I drew my last breath and said “Goodbye, Mom, I wish we could have met.”

-Anonymous

3-12-21 It’s time that abortion clinics be held accountable for their negligence of counseling women who have un-wanted pregnancies by not informing them of all the facts concerning their circumstance.  It is not right to take advantage of her vulnerability for the sake of “women’s rights” while ignoring the impact abortion can have on her life.  Not all women go on with their happy lives after exercising their right to have an abortion.¹    

Using the label of abortion to describe the extraction of her fetus from her womb somehow is presumed to have no effect on a woman’s mental health, but when she has a miscarriage, she most likely will experience deep remorse.  When her baby is wanted, the mother knows

3-8-21   When  you have come to realize that having an abortion was wrong and begin to feel remorse, the way to healing will come when you cry over your abortion for the right reasons.  It is important to separate our emotions (that stem from self-victimization) from the facts (God’s truth about our fallen condition and His remedy).

4-1-16, updated 2-2-21 A person who is pro-life cannot keep silent in defense for the unborn. 

A person who is pro-choice cannot keep silent in defense of their right to do what they want with their bodies.

These two stances are irreconcilable, and they always will be. 

Pain is Inevitable                                                     

A woman may think her child is better off by not being brought into an undesirable living situation and choose to have an abortion, which may cause her to experience emotional pain.  She may think she is better off having an abortion for the convenience of removing the burden of the responsibilities of raising a child, which will give her a false sense of relief. ¹

But in most cases (excluding therapeutic abortion) there is no legitimate excuse or reason why a mother cannot bring her child to full term and give it up for adoption if she is not able to raise her child herself.  This may cause her emotional pain as well, but no matter what choices are made from an unwanted pregnancy, pain is inevitable.  A woman will either deny this subconsciously as a shield from guilt, or her heart will over-ride her denial, and she will realize the truth and experience deep remorse.  Both responses can have damaging effects on her mental health, but by choosing to go full-term she would not have to deal with the guilt of ending the life of her unborn child.  

There is No Denying the Most Important Truth

What are the pro-choice people doing about women who are traumatized post-abortion?  How can you console a woman who now feels the emotional impact of terminating the life of her child?  Whatever her excuses may have been, whether they were well meaning or selfish, she has to now deal with the responsibility of ending the life of her child, and that decision will mentally and emotionally affect her for the rest of her life. Why are clinics against showing women an ultrasound of their baby, a method that has been known to change their mind and keep the baby?  Because it would be disturbing to them to see that.  So that is the same thing as telling them to deny the truth about abortion, and that the clinic is not responsible for their emotional health afterwards.

Justice for All Based on Facts 

Every woman has a right to do what she wants with her body, and that includes the potential woman existing inside her womb. Ideally, since it involves the life of another person, a woman should have a right to do what she wants with her body up to the point of consensual intercourse.  If she then has an unwanted pregnancy, that right is now divided among two people.  Because an unborn baby is dependent on its mother’s womb to survive, should it have no voice, no rights of its own? Have we eliminated the word “responsibility” from our vocabulary?

Why do you want to throw women in jail if they have abortions?

The pro-life movement does not want to put women in jail for having abortions. Pro-lifers consider women to be victimized by abortion, whether they are legal or illegal. Laws against abortion would impose penalties on the abortionist, not the woman.  According to the pro-choice writer Rachel Benson Gold, when abortion was still illegal, “women were rarely convicted for having an abortion; instead, the threat of prosecution often was used to encourage them to testify against the provider.” Likewise, in states with laws restricting abortion today, penalties are imposed on the abortion practitioner, not the woman.

In fact, it was early feminists like Susan B. Anthony who fought to criminalize abortion in the 19^th century. They recognized that abortion exploited and harmed women, so they called for new laws that would prevent doctors and other practitioners from performing abortions. If the law of the land on abortion were to change in the future, it would again be the abortion practitioners who would face penalties—not the women on whom they performed abortions.

Sources: Benson Gold, Rachel. 2003, March. Lessons from Before Roe: Will Past be Prologue? The Guttmacher Report on Public Policy 6, No 1. www.guttmacher.org/pubs/tgr/06/1/gr060108.html#box.

Priests For Life. The Founders of Women’s Movement All Opposed Abortion. www.priestsforlife.org/articles/femquotes.html.” ⁷

Put Your Coat Hangers Away   

There is no need to re-live the past.  Technology, medicine, and charitable contributions to meet all needs of people have advanced above and beyond since the 1960’s.  Although it’s been known that women have died from trying to perform their own abortions, there should be no reason for this now, with all the help and support and other options available to see a woman through with her pregnancy to full term.  If abortion is illegal, and sufficient help is provided for her, then she would be placing herself in danger by her own choice.  If abortion becomes illegal, I’m sure the pro-care people will step up and reach out and do everything they can to help

Women’s Rights Gone Too Far

I understand the need for social equality, but what is exposed under the guise of woman’s rights seems to be the real motive to keep abortion legalized by certain groups on the left: a woman’s resentment towards men, in the name of sexism, whom she feels has an advantage over her in certain situations because he is made physically different from her; it is her vain attempt to change what cannot be changed, both physiologically and morally.

Physiologically, it’s not fair to them that because men are not capable of bearing children, they are free from this “burden.” If women are to be totally equal with men, then they would have to deny their physical differences in order to maintain that “equal” status, and the ultimate way to do that is to allow abortion on demand.  Taking control of their uterus is their way of taking control over God’s natural design of women.

Christian View vs. the World View 

Christians have the advantage of understanding life from God, the Creator of life; but it’s important to be mindful of the big picture, looking at both sides of the battlefield when it comes to communicating with those who are spiritually blind.  In the eyes of God, when the physical body retires, it does not mean the end of life, the soul still lives, and where it spends eternity is to be determined in the future.  To end the life of another person is to disrespect God, for we were made in His image, but what does that matter to a non-believer?  Christians are set apart from the world’s standards and are expected to respect life and be light and salt to those whose minds are darkened from His truth.  Most women who have abortions don’t look at it as murdering their child.  Do you hear what the voices of the worldly are saying on this issue?  Since they can’t understand life as Christians do, can’t you understand their reasoning behind their emotions, why it is so polarized from the ways of God?  No matter how many scientific facts surface about fetal development, the world is still going to solve this matter according to their own wisdom;¹⁷ how can we expect anything different from them?

Conclusion 

The world has its own system of running things.  Although it may consist of morally minded people who are opposed to its ways, it is a power machine that cannot be reckoned with.  There is no amount of morality that can trump its power.  Their own kind will eat each other alive and succeed in manipulating its ever changing standards, but it will not tolerate the true morality of God.  They clearly displayed this when they crucified God Himself, only because He allowed them, and that was so that He could make atonement for our sins; otherwise, He permits the world to run its course under the influence of its fallen nature at the cost of innocent lives.

difference in this sad narrative,and the most successful way to do that is by His Spirit.  We should always be praying and seeking God for His wisdom, counsel, and divine intervention, and we want to always bring truth to light upon the darkened ways of this fallen world.¹⁹ But we should also be realistic when it comes to our expectations of the world’s limited way of understanding. Although God allows murder, He has given us a commandment against it and does not let any one get away with it, our conscience bears witness to that whether we are Christian or not.  Murder is a choice, and God has given us the free will to choose, He does not force us to be righteous.  There was no one protesting God in front of the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil when Adam and Eve fell into the greatest deception of thinking life could be lived apart from dependence on Him, which resulted in the future of all humanity to be born into the fallen nature of physical and spiritual death, in need of a Savior.  It seems like God was both pro-choice and pro-life.

7-16-20 We would be so much more effective in preventing abortion by converting people to the true meaning of Christianity.

We should always speak out against abortion. But to make it illegal is challenging.  We have to pass through the right of the mother, the iron wall of “self,” before we can get her to see the rights of her unborn child who is dependent on her for survival.  Even if it becomes illegal, women will still find a way to have the procedure done illegally.  

From a Christian perspective, what makes abortion so wrong is that it is murder, which is an offense to God, for people are made in His image, and to murder someone is to say you have no respect for God.  If you knew God and loved Him, you would respect Him and the life of yourself and others.  So we can see how non-Christians may not define a fetus as a living human person, nor have any issues intellectually or morally with having it aborted.  If they don’t believe in the sovereignty of God, then naturally they believe in their own sovereignty in which no one has a right to interfere with.  The best we can hope for in making a difference in the abortion debate is to pray for all people to be converted to Christian beliefs so that they may respect life as God intended it and have hope for their future no matter how good or bad their living situation is, so that we can effectively avoid the slaughter of innocent lives, both the physical life of the baby and the spiritual life of the mother.

At the very moment of conception a living soul is created and will live on forever.  The physical aspect of this created human being begins to develop inside the mother’s womb, and can be ended by abortion; but the soul lives on and one day she will have to answer to God and her child as to why she did them wrong.

7-3-20 You may find that your moral conscience has become greatly disturbed from having an abortion.  That is the undeniable evidence of God’s existence verifying that we were made in His image with the ability to know the difference between what is good, of His nature, and what is evil, of the devil’s nature. It reveals that the intuitive nature of our human spirit is capable of being aware of God’s moral standards.  You have become sorry and remorseful for what you have done and in need of finding peace for your troubled conscience. 

It is important that you realize that accusation and condemnation are of the devil (Rev. 12:9; Rom. 8:1). If that is what you are experiencing and you want to be free of oppression then turn to God who desires to heal you. You cannot erase what you have done, but you can find forgiveness with God.  Out of love for His children who are suffering with guilt and shame, the Holy Spirit will bring conviction to our hearts (Jn. 16:7-11; 2 Cor. 3:17) so that we will be encouraged to face it, accept responsibility for it, then lay it down at the Lords feet (1 Pet. 5:2; Ps. 55:22; Matt. 11:28) and leave it there.  He will lovingly guide you through the process of reckoning with how you could have done such a horrible thing of ending the life of your unborn child in such a tragic way. This is a rude awakening in many ways, but God can provide you with healing, reconciliation and restoration if you are willing to receive it. If you contact your local pregnancy center, they provide free post-abortion counseling and will be able to walk you through this difficult process with you. It is helpful to put aside any “religious,” idealism you may have about God based on Him being interpreted according to the wisdom of man, of what you know of Him based on tradition (Col. 2:8) and search to know Him personally for who He really is.  Be assured that the Bible clearly states that Jesus did not come to condemn the world but to save it (Jn. 12:47). 

Christianity is not all fluffy and trouble free. It is just the opposite. Our joy is in the Lord (Col. 1:10-11; 1 Pet. 1:8-9), yet He was tortured and suffered on the cross for our sins; what does that tell you about the way of man and the world we live in? How is it that you were ok with having an abortion but now see that it was wrong? What you may not have been aware of was the nature of our fallen condition (Eph. 2:1-3), which is to be self-reliant, to take matters into our own hands; and how worldly influence, which is mostly ungodly, enabled you to think that an abortion is the natural and acceptable thing to do when pregnancy is an inconvenience.

Our fallen condition, the way of the world, is inspired by the devil (1 Jn. 5:19); can you believe that now (1 Cor. 2:14)?  It’s in the Bible, the very Word of God that testifies of His existence and explains our fallen condition and His plan of eternal salvation.

The peaceful, trouble-free life we long for is not on this side of heaven.  The Lord tells us to follow Him (Matt. 16:24), to live by the power of the Holy Spirit (1 Jn. 3:24; Gal. 5:25), to continually die to the influence of our flesh (our fallen nature) (Gal. 5:16-17, 24), and expect to experience trials, tribulations and persecution because of it (Jn. 16:33; Rom. 5:3-5); for it testifies that the devil is real, and the devil will do everything he can to prevent you, a living testimony of God (by walking in the power of the Holy Spirit) from doing so (1 Pet. 5:8).  As horrible as the sins we have committed are, we can only be healed when we face them and leave them at the foot of the cross.  We are humbled by the extended offer of love and mercy and grace and forgiveness of God, and now we must put on the full armor of God (Eph. 6:13), stand in His authority and not let the devil get away with any more of his deceptive schemes (2 Cor. 2:11).  The Lord will give you the grace to face the truth, to be restored and set free.

“Therefore if the Son makes you free, you shall be free indeed.” – John 8:36

“Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”  – Romans 15:13

3-26-20 Pro-life believes in protecting the life of an unborn child, even though it is dependent on its reluctant mother for survival.  Everyone born and unborn has a right to life no matter what circumstance they are in, good or bad.

Pro-Choice disregards the rights of the life growing in a mother’s womb. Since it is dependent on the mother for survival, they have a right to give the fetus permission to do that or not. Since they have a right to do what they want with their body, no one can tell them what to do with it.    

Notice the titles that each group has designated for themselves:

Pro-Life, and its opponent is named Pro-choice, not Pro-death.

Pro-Choice, and its opponent is named Pro-life, not Pro-bondage.

This is why the communication is cloudy and subject to mental manipulation and distortion of meaning that over shadows the truth.

How do we solve this problem?

How can the Pro-life group address this issue while respecting the rights of the mother as well as the child?

How can the Pro-choice group address this issue while respecting the right of the life of their child growing inside their womb?

It’s pretty hard to argue that every life has a right to life, even if it is dependent on its mother to fully develop so that it can survive without her when born.  By forcing her to carry it to full term is infringing on her right to do what she wants with her body, but aborting is also infringing on the rights of the fetus to be brought to full-term.  Why isn’t the Pro-choice group concerned with the rights of the unborn child as well?

Realistically we live in an imperfect world where we lack discipline and self-control and responsibility, especially when it comes to having sex.  That doesn’t mean there shouldn’t be a set standard to abide by.  It’s illegal to steal but people will still do it, and when they are caught, guess what?  They are disciplined.

The facts of life, the facts of nature are what they are and we can’t change that.  Life begins at the moment of conception and starts inside the safety of its mother’s womb until fully developed to survive on its own.

Do you, who were fortunate that your mother abided by the laws of nature, want to deny the natural process of life for the sake of your own convenience?

How can it be wrong to infringe on the rights of the mother when they are infringing on the rights of their unborn child?

So isn’t the real issue here responsibility?  Being responsible by using safe sex methods or practicing abstinence, and understanding the enormous responsibility of conceiving a child, carrying it to full term, and realizing how it will dramatically change your life whether you choose to raise it yourself or give it up for adoption.

Who doesn’t have sex without knowing that is how babies are born?  Yet it’s treated in a careless and disrespectful way that assumes we don’t have to take responsibility for any unexpected consequences.  Not only do we instinctively know what the outcome of sex can bring, by now we have come to know that irresponsibility can also cause sexual diseases, and that’s a consequence you can’t change, you have no choice but to accept it and deal with it.  But when a woman becomes pregnant, she has the option not to deal with it through having an abortion instead of offering her child up for adoption.

When we drive in our cars, we have rules to keep us safe, and we are responsible to abide by them, otherwise we can suffer the consequences, whether getting a speeding ticket, causing an accident, or even death.

Most people do not have a problem with abiding by these rules. Why wouldn’t they do the same when it comes to being responsible with sexual activity?  Nobody can force a person to abide by the rules for safe driving, and no one can force a person to abide by the responsibility in their outlook on sex, but if they will choose not to be responsible, then the consequences are inevitable.

Understanding your responsibility when it comes to having sex would mean that you have the right to do what you want with your body up until the moment you conceive another life that is entitled to have its own right to life.

6-23-19 Why is it that when it’s a wanted pregnancy, it’s a baby, and when it’s not wanted, it’s just a blob of cells?  Of all places, a family planning (health) center should be the last place to be so schizophrenic on this crucial health information.  Whether a woman has a right to do whatever she wants with her body, she most definitely has the right to know the true facts about fetal development and abortion, and to be informed of the psychological consequences.

There is no denying that everyone has some kind of standard of morals, whether they be Godly or of their own making.  To deny the facts only to be realized after an abortion can be traumatizing, leaving you feeling betrayed and stripped of dignity for being taken advantage of in a vulnerable circumstance.  It’s as if you were being betrayed by someone you trusted.

There is a need to separate our emotions concerning the issue of the government not telling us what to do with our bodies, and having respect for the life that grows inside a mother’s womb.

Is the government trying to control your life by making abortion illegal or is it supporting the rights of a fetus whom the mother wants to deny so she can murder it?

How can we legally deny the fetus its rights and how can we legally murder a living fetus?  I don’t want the government to tell me what to do with my body, or my failed marriage in the consequences of a divorce for that matter, but when there is another life involved, justice demands action.

How can abortion and “planned parenthood” co-exist?  Are women being taught alternatives to abortion, birth control, abstinence, mother’s homes for pregnant teens, job training, adoption, or after birth support?

It just seems like this misguided issue of rights has hardened the hearts of women to be insensitive to do something horrific against her maternal instinct.  Has the interest of self-importance in the name of women’s rights deceived women into thinking they are solitarily irresponsible and unaccountable for what is a proven fact that life starts at conception?  The miracle of life is a beautiful, amazing phenomenon, isn’t it?  Why isn’t there more emphasis on a woman having a right to do whatever she wants with her body before she has sex, knowing that if she gets an unwanted pregnancy, she legally has to bring her child to full term?

The government is established by the people and for the people – it’s for equal rights and liberty for all, so how can that be true if there is no right to life for the unborn? 

Yes, a woman has a right to do whatever she wants with her body, but do you want to take that as far as to forsake your own humanity by denying your maternal instincts that are undeniable?  There are many women who suffer from the consequences of denying this and realizing the truth too late.

But of course this is just a fantasy, because if family planning clinics provided the true facts about fetal development and the consequences that can occur from an abortion, and the many provisions and services provided to bring an unwanted pregnancy to full term, safely to birth, then abortion would have to become illegal, because there would be no excuse for the mother not to bring her baby to full term.

8-8-05 What if abortion was illegal?  They are concerned about the dangerous alternatives a woman will resort to in order to end her pregnancy, possibly ending the mother’s life as a result. 

Yet, isn’t there any other alternative to abortion?  If it was illegal, wouldn’t you desperately campaign to promote abstinence, safe sex, and adoption?  The world uses their idols, famous people, to influence people to help in every other human cause.  Why not abstinence?  What does this expose about the world?  That it is unwilling to call promiscuity for what it is and acknowledge the consequences it bears, therefore, it is really saying it is unwilling to be responsible and be accountable for its action.

If they took sex and promiscuity out of the media, many people would be out of business.  Can you imagine a rock band not promoting sex; or the clothing and movie industry?

In the summer of 2005, the Live-8 conference was put together in world record time, broadcast globally, with more than three billion people watching the event.  The aim of the concerts was to raise awareness of poverty in developing nations prior to the G8 summit, which took place in Scotland on July 6. Bob Geldof, the organizer, said “These concerts are the start point for The Long Walk To Justice, the one way we can all make our voices heard in unison.”

They volunteered because they cared.  Imagine them doing that to promote abstinence to save millions of human lives.

10-13-01 When you’ve been morally convicted that the abortion you had was a sin in God’s eyes, it’s ok to cry and cry and cry over it, let it all out.  It’s a terrible rude awakening that can only be faced by knowing the Judge who is convicting you is also the author of love.  It is for sins such as this that He died on a cross for you to set you free from the domain of Satan.  We must accept the existence of Satan and  understand that the whole world is subject to  his evil influence (1 Jn. 5:19); and how we are responsible for this through our inherited fallen nature from Adam and Eve when they made the fatal choice to rebel and disobey God in the Garden of Eden.  Otherwise, the sacrificial death of Jesus was in vain.  In order to receive true healing we must accept the responsibility for our actions.

Our sense of conviction and remorse is sheer evidence that we were not meant to live independent of God.  No matter how good and well-meaning we are, we cannot escape the persuasion of the demonically tainted world system (Is. 5:20-21; Rom. 7:14-20).  Millions of women are deceived into thinking abortion is acceptable and the right thing to do if her pregnancy is an inconvenience.  It is not until after she has aborted her child that she may realize the failure of being informed of the effect this would have on her moral conscience… a profound inner sense of the sorrow of God for her and her baby that was drowned out before she aborted by all the noise of her anxiety, fears, and pressure from others; and by believing what she wanted to believe to relieve her of all of this – the easy way out.  But now that the damage is done, you suddenly find yourself face to face with God, and this can be a negative experience if you don’t know the true, loving, forgiving character of God.  In my personal experience I was fading away in denial from believing the lie that God had forsaken me.  I eventually became desperate and realized I had nothing to lose by placing myself at the mercy of God and with all my heart search to know Him for who He truly is. It is a rude awakening when you realize you let Satan influence whatever decisions you made that were more important than your maternal instinct of knowing you had a precious living baby growing inside of you.  When confronted with the Holiness of God’s light, denial is not the way out.  You must face the deep, dark gruesome reality that you were responsible for ending the life of your own baby, your very own flesh and blood.

Yes, someone like you did such a horrible thing.  It’s enough to make you go into shock.  We were given a free will, and we chose to be our own gods, resulting in Satan as our mentor (Genesis chapter 3).  Through the experience of the gruesome act of having an abortion we have tasted the bitterness of this wayward decision, which leads to only death, both physical of the baby, and spiritual of the mother.  How can you trust God for allowing you to do such a thing?  How can you trust yourself?  Sin is death.  Sin is separation from God.  He provided a way out of the darkness and into the light by taking the penalty of sin upon Himself, through His Son Jesus Christ.  That’s how much He loves us. 

Are we going to continue in denial or accept the free gift of salvation through Jesus Christ?

https://optionline.org/

This website provides the following information:

• Live Chat
• Find a Pregnancy Center Near Me
• Am I Pregnant?
  • Signs and Symptoms of Pregnancy
  • Pregnancy Tests
• Not Sure What to Do?
  • Informative facts on all options for guidance in making the right choice for you
• After Abortion Support

www.pregnancydecisionline.org

This website provides the following information:

• Pregnancy symptoms and tests
• Abortion information
• Advice for Guys, Friends and Family Members
• Phone Support
• Pregnancy Center Finder

What services do you provide?

Pregnancy Decision Line provides caring, confidential support for women and men faced with a pregnancy decision. We’re available to talk and will offer reliable information you can trust. You can ask us anything; we are here for you.

How much do your services cost?

Our services are free.       

Will a pregnancy test tell me if I’m pregnant?

Pregnancy tests are not always accurate, and a significant number of early pregnancies end on their own in a miscarriage. Only a licensed medical professional can diagnose and confirm pregnancy.

What options do I have if I’m pregnant?

If you are pregnant, you can choose to have the baby or get an abortion. If you decide to have the baby, there are several parenting options to consider, including being a single mom, co-parenting with the baby’s father, or adoption.  If you choose abortion, there are potential risks and complications (emotional, relational, and physical) that you should consider before making a final decision.  Want to explore all your options? Give us a call.

http://www.theunchoice.com/pregnancyhelp.htm

Pregnancy and post-abortion help, resources & links

Much fact-based information on all aspects of abortion

https://www.octoberbabymovie.net/ministryresources/

This website provides the following information: 

• Immediate Help
• Recovery Resources
• Adoption Resources
• Bible Study, Book, and more
• Facts About Abortion
• Catholic Resources

https://www.restoredlife.us

We help men, women and churches connect with restorative ministry.  
 There are many excellent approaches to abortion recovery ministry; in person and online, one-on-one and group studies, private counseling, and weekend retreats.  We help find Christ-centered, Bible-based ministry close to where people live or work.  Pairing the individual with ministry that works with their schedule works best.

We offer restorative abortion recovery testimony and talks. 
 Throughout the testimonies we highlight the aftermath of abortion, God’s power to heal and restore, and the need to be intentional about seeking healing. Post-abortion trauma is real.  Most have never spoken with another living soul about their abortion experience, not knowing who they can trust, or whether there is help for this hurt.  The post-abortive person can often feel beyond repair.  Our heart’s desire is to see those captives held in the dark wound of abortion be set free, to come out of hiding and receive restorative ministry.

www.stacyzallie.org

The Stacy Zallie Foundation’s mission is to facilitate the well-being and happiness of women who have undergone an abortion.

The Stacy Zallie Foundation is dedicated to our daughter, Stacy Zallie. At age 20 our beautiful daughter, was the victim of a coerced abortion which violated her personal, moral, and spiritual beliefs.

…We are convinced that if Stacy had been better informed about what she might expect following the abortion (physically and/or emotionally) and if she had been able to share her grief in a safe, supportive environment, she would be with us today. In her memory, The Stacy Zallie Foundation and Post-Abortion Comfort Portal provides help after an abortion, including information and resources to anyone grieving or in pain as the result of abortion.

https://saveone.org

You are not alone. You are not hopeless. God wants to heal you. SaveOne can help. SaveOne is a life-saving and life-changing ministry. We are dedicated to helping men, women, and loved ones recover spiritually, mentally, and emotionally, after the choice of abortion.

Almost the entire global staff of SaveOne has chosen abortion at least once in their lives. Through this choice, and subsequent restoration this incredible staff wants to see others encounter the same healing they have experienced. When God does something so miraculous in a person’s life, it’s hard to not want others to experience it as well.

http://www.abortionchangesyou.com/

This confidential space is for those who are touched by abortion, whether the experience happened recently or years ago.

Abortion Changes You is a refuge for those who wish to tell their story and begin the process of healing.

https://bethany.org/

We believe every child deserves to be safe, loved, and connected through family. Bethany is a global nonprofit that supports children and families with world-class social services, all designed to help families thrive.

Pregnancy Support You Can Count On

For expectant parents facing a world of unknowns, we provide confidential support to help you find your best path forward.

You Are Never Alone

If you are pregnant and need guidance, you can always connect with Bethany. We help thousands of expectant parents every year—of all ages and backgrounds—and empower them to make a plan.

Only you can make the decision, but you don’t have to make it alone.

Explore Your Options

Bethany’s counselors will help you find your own answers and respect the decisions you make. No matter what you decide, our services are completely free and confidential.

Only You Can Make This Decision

It’s a big decision to find a family you trust to parent your child. That’s why we offer you many family profiles to explore. Take time to learn which family is right for your baby.

www.unplannedpregnancy.com/facing-an-unplanned-pregnancy/resources/maternity-homes/

If you feel that your home environment is just not the right place to focus on a healthy pregnancy, a maternity home might be a good choice for you.

These places will most often offer:

• Housing
• Food
• Transportation
• Counseling and education
• Assistance applying for financial aid

Most often, it does not cost money to stay in housing programs for pregnant mothers. Some places will offer women the opportunity to work a low-stress job in exchange for paying any fees.

www.standingwithyou.org/students-rights/

Students Rights

Prior to 1972, most schools across the U.S. had little to no policies in place regarding the rights of pregnant and parenting students on campus. There were no guidelines that help to regulate how many credit hours pregnant or parenting students are able to miss, help secure scholarships awarded to students who later become pregnant, or allow pregnant and parenting students to make up coursework they may have missed. In 1972, Title IX was passed to help curtail sex discrimination and, thankfully, a margin of this legislation is allotted to help curtail discrimination against pregnant women.

Title IX ensures that any school (e.g. high school) or university that receives federal funding cannot discriminate against students who are pregnant and/or parenting. This means that all schools must give pregnant and parenting students the same access to school programs and educational opportunities that are available to other students. It also means professors and administrators cannot influence pregnant or parenting students to alter their educational plans due to their added responsibilities.

In the interest of presenting young women with ALL of their options, especially those guaranteed her by law, we have created the Pregnant on Campus Bill of Rights.  If the following applies to you or someone you know, please contact the National Supportive Services Director for assistance. You should never have to choose between your child and your dreams and now, you don’t have to!

http://www.lovelife.org

Get Involved

The issue isn’t the darkness… it is the absence of the light of Christ.

Love life is uniting and mobilizing the church to create a culture of love and life that will result in an end to abortion and the orphan crisis. 

God is using love life to awaken the church. This isn’t pro-life activism it is Christianity 101. It is loving our neighbor as we love ourselves. Whole families are being moved from inside the four walls of the church into the frontlines of the mission field in their cities.

https://www.mightycause.com/organization/International-Down-Syndrome-Coalition

Mission Statement – The International Down Syndrome Coalition (IDSC) is dedicated to helping and advocating for individuals with Down syndrome from conception and throughout life. We promote the dignity and respect of individuals with DS and assist the families who love them. We provide support, education and connection to other families as well as to local resources. The IDSC operates and advocates independent of any political cause or religious affiliation and we welcome all to our community.

https://standapart.org

The Alliance for Post-Abortion Research and Training (APART) is dedicated to standing apart from the political debate as we conduct rigorous research, disseminate accurate information and serve as a forum for collaboration among scholars and professionals in the U.S. and internationally.